Sex Toys for Couples: The Complete Guide to Shared Pleasure
Let's be honest — sex toys have an image problem. For years the assumption has been that they're something you use on your own, quietly, when nobody's home. But that's nonsense. Some of the best fun you can have with a toy involves two people, and more couples are figuring that out every day.
Whether you've been together three months or thirty years, bringing a toy into the bedroom can feel like opening a new chapter. Fresh sensation, deeper connection and a fair bit of laughter along the way. But if the idea of introducing a vibratorto your shared sex life feels daunting, you're in the right place.
At Rocks Off we've been designing toys for couples since 2002. We invented the Rock-Chick — the world's first hands-free, dual-stimulation C-shaped toy — and we've been helping couples find new ways to play together ever since. Here's everything you need to know.
Why couples use sex toys
If you've ever worried that adding a toy to your sex life means something is "missing" — it doesn't. Couples reach for toys for all sorts of reasons and most of them are pretty straightforward.
Studies consistently show that straight women orgasm less frequently during penetrative sex than men do. A vibrator on the clitoris during penetration goes a long way toward levelling that playing field. Then there's the simple fact that routines, while comfortable, can get predictable. A toy introduces new sensations without changing the person you're with.
There's also something to be said for the intimacy of it. Exploring something new together requires communication and trust — both of which tend to bring you closer. And vibrating cock rings can make erections firmer and more sensitive, while clitoral stimulation during penetration opens the door to blended orgasms. Put simply, sex is supposed to be fun. Toys bring a sense of adventure back into the bedroom.
How to talk to your partner about sex toys
Before you surprise anyone with a mystery parcel, have a conversation. Here's how to go about it without making it weird.
Don't bring it up mid-shag. Pick a relaxed, low-pressure moment — a lazy Sunday morning, a walk, or a quiet night in with a glass of something. The goal is to open a conversation, not make a pitch.
Frame it positively too. This isn't about fixing a problem. Try something like "I was reading about couples toys and it sounded fun — what do you think?" rather than "I think we should spice things up." Then browse together. Our couples toy collection is a decent place to start — you can both see what catches your eye without any pressure.
If it's your first toy as a couple, don't go straight for the biggest, most complicated option. A simple vibrating cock ring or a bullet vibrator is the perfect entry point — affordable, non-intimidating and incredibly versatile.
And once you've got your toy, keep talking. "Does this feel good?" and "Do you want it faster or slower?" are genuinely the best questions you can ask. There's no script — just communicate.
Types of sex toys for couples
Vibrating cock rings
The undisputed king of couples toys. A vibrating cock ring sits at the base of the penis (or a strap-on), restricting blood flow slightly for a firmer erection, while the vibrating section stimulates the clitoris or perineum during penetration. Simple, effective and brilliant for mutual pleasure.
Our range covers everything from basic silicone rings to dual-function toys. The Poseidon at £9.99 is a vibrating cock ring with a removable bullet — and you can use the bullet on its own too, which is a nice bonus. The Twist at £6.66 is about as simple as it gets: a stretchy silicone ring with no bells or whistles, perfect for first-timers.
If you want something with a bit more going on, the Spire at £14.99 brings more power and a sleeker design. And for couples who want to explore more, the RO-Zen (£17.99) combines a cock ring with a butt plug, while the RO-Zen Pro (£27.99) swaps that for a prostate plug — serious dual stimulation for those who want it.
One thing worth noting: don't wear a cock ring for more than 30 minutes at a time. Take it off immediately if you experience pain, numbness or discolouration. Common sense stuff, but worth saying.
Vibrating cock rings
Bullet vibrators for couples
Don't let the size fool you. A bullet is one of the most versatile couples toys you can own — small enough to slip between bodies during sex, powerful enough to make a real difference and discreet enough to travel with.
Our RO-80mm at £9.99 is the original — the world's bestselling single-speed bullet, with over 10 million sold. For something with more settings, the Touch of Velvet at £15.99 offers 10 functions. And the Rechargeable Bullet at £19.99 gives you USB charging and stronger, more consistent power.
Bullet vibrators for couples
Remote-controlled toys and panty vibes
For couples who want to hand over control — or play somewhere they probably shouldn't. Remote-controlled toys let one partner dial up the intensity while the other enjoys the sensation. Our panty vibe collection features slim, contoured vibrators that sit inside your underwear, delivering hands-free stimulation wherever you go. Whisper-quiet, body-safe and rechargeable.
These are perfect for date nights, long-distance play or simply handing the remote to your partner and seeing where the evening takes you.
Love eggs
Love eggs are insertable, remote-controlled vibrators designed for internal stimulation. They're discreet, hands-free and many double as pelvic floor trainers — so you get pleasure and a workout at the same time. Browse our love egg collection for options.
Finger vibrators
Slip one of these on and your hand becomes a vibrating powerhouse. Brilliant for foreplay — trace along nipples, inner thighs, the clitoris, the shaft of the penis or the perineum. Our finger vibrator range includes the NIYA N3, the Climaximum Coax and the accessible Quest Odyssey.
Sit-on vibrators
Hands-free, body-moulding and designed for all genders. Sit-on vibrators deliver deep, rumbly stimulation to the clitoris, G-spot, P-spot or anal area depending on the model. No holding, no adjusting — just sit back and enjoy. See our sit-on vibrator collection.
Sex toy kits
Not sure where to start? A sex toy kit takes the guesswork out of it. Our curated sets bundle complementary toys — bullets, pleasure rings, strokers and more — so you've got everything you need for a varied, exciting session. Perfect for couples who want options without the overwhelm.
During foreplay
Start before you get to the main event. Use a bullet or finger vibrator to trace along your partner's body — neck, nipples, inner thighs, lower back. Build anticipation. The goal isn't to rush to orgasm; it's to explore sensation together.
During penetrative sex
A vibrating cock ring is your best friend here. The ring stays in place during thrusting, while the vibrating section presses against the clitoris on each stroke. Alternatively, hold a small bullet against the clitoris while your partner penetrates — the RO-80 is compact enough not to get in the way.
For a different angle, try positions where the clitoris is easily accessible. Woman-on-top or spooning both work well with a toy in play.
Edging together
Bring your partner close to orgasm, then back off. Repeat. A toy gives you precise control over intensity, making it easy to build and release tension. When the orgasm finally arrives it's much more intense.
For him, too
Sex toys aren't just for her. Try tracing a bullet along the frenulum (the sensitive underside of the penis), the testicles or the perineum. For prostate play, our RO-Zen Pro combines a prostate plug with a cock ring for dual stimulation. And if you're curious about anal play more broadly, our Anal Sex – The Hole Story guide covers everything you need to know.
Tips for first-time couples
First things first — lower your expectations. The first time with a toy might be slightly awkward, funny or not earth-shattering. That's normal. You're learning something new together.
Use lube. Water-based lube is safe with all body-safe materials and makes everything more comfortable. Grab some before you start.
Start on the lowest setting. Whatever toy you're using, begin on the gentlest setting and work up. You can always add more, but you can't un-blast your clitoris with max power.
And don't forget about yourselves. A toy enhances the experience — it doesn't replace the human connection. Kiss, touch, make eye contact. The toy is a co-star, not the lead.
When it comes to cleaning up, many of our toys are fully waterproof which makes it straightforward. Check out our toy cleaning guide for the full lowdown.
Accessibility and inclusive design
Pleasure is for everyone. That's why we partnered with Enhance The UK to create the Quest range — the world's first accessible sex toy range, with enlarged buttons, embossed markings and easy-to-use controls. If you or your partner have specific accessibility needs, Quest toys are designed to work with you, not against you. You can read more in our Toy Shopping with a Disability guide.
Frequently asked questions
What is the best sex toy for couples?
It depends what you're after. For most couples a vibrating cock ring is the best starting point — affordable, easy to use and it provides stimulation for both partners at the same time. The Poseidon at £9.99 is our top pick for beginners.
How do I introduce sex toys to my partner?
Start with an honest, low-pressure conversation outside the bedroom. Frame it as trying something new together rather than fixing a problem. Browse together, start small and check in with each other during play.
Can sex toys be used during penetrative sex?
Yes. Vibrating cock rings, small bullets and finger vibrators are all designed to be used during penetration. The key is choosing something small enough not to get in the way — bullets and cock rings are ideal.
Are vibrating cock rings safe?
Yes, when used correctly. Don't wear one for more than 30 minutes and remove it immediately if you experience pain or discolouration. All Rocks Off cock rings are made from body-safe silicone and are fully waterproof.
What lube should we use?
Water-based lubricant is safe with all body-safe materials including silicone toys. Avoid silicone-based lube with silicone toys as it can degrade the surface. Check our body-safe materials guide for more.
Can we use sex toys if we've never used them before?
Yes. Many of our toys are designed with beginners in mind — simple controls, gentle starting settings and clear instructions. Our sex toy kits are a good entry point as they include a variety of toys so you can discover what you both enjoy.
Are Rocks Off toys body-safe?
Yes. All our toys are made from platinum-cured silicone and premium ABS plastic — both non-porous, phthalate-free and allergy-safe. We don't use latex, nickel or any harmful chemicals. Every product comes with a 2-year guarantee. Learn more on our body-safety page.
Do you ship discreetly?
Yes. Every order is shipped in plain, unmarked packaging. Free UK delivery on orders over £25.
Bringing a sex toy into your relationship isn't a statement about what's missing — it's a celebration of what's there. You're saying: I want to explore with you. I want us to have more fun together.
At Rocks Off we've spent over 20 years designing toys that bring people closer. From the original Rock-Chick to our accessible Quest range, every product is made with body-safe materials, backed by a 2-year guarantee and shipped discreetly to your door.
Ready to explore together? Browse our full couples toy collection — or start with a vibrating cock ring from £6.66. Free UK delivery on orders over £25.
Happy exploring.
Shop the full Rocks Off couples range at rocks-off.com/collections/couples-toys. Questions? Email us at customersupport@rocks-off.com or check our FAQ.